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Nuggets of Wisdom From a 65-Year Old Woman

Ageing is just another word for living. -Cindy Joseph

Ageing is just another word for living. -Cindy Joseph

Maya Angelou and I share the same birth date (except the year). She is 21 years older than I am, and a great model of wisdom and womanhood to follow. I have neither the desire nor the ability to imitate her, but I learn from her stories of struggles and successes, from her continuing zest for life and from the wisdom in the words she has penned.

Maya is only one of the individuals from whom I continue to learn as I begin my 65th year. Other teachers include:

  • my oldest living aunt who teaches me how to report the pains of aging with humor and reminds me to be grateful for the stabilizing bond of family;
  • my mother, whose present condition as an Alzheimer’s victim leaves her lessons in hospitality and her legacy of good counsel untouched;
  • my cousins and peers (male and female), who teach me the importance of consistent connectedness;
  • members of a writing community called HubPages, who thrill me with their creativity and resourcefulness;
  • my son and daughter who occasionally walk ahead of me in the spirit of adventure, courage and expectations.

Still, the wisdom lessons I share best are those extracted from my own situations. Some of them took me years to learn. At 65, I begin to share them in nugget portions and address them especially to those who walk behind me.

(1) Smiles: Share Deliberately

You have been taught to flash a smile of welcome and recognition to anyone who enters your space or whoever makes eye contact with you. Beyond that, let your smiles be deliberate for people who deserve them—individuals who need a show of friendship, cheer, compassion and so on.

Some foolish people think that smiles are an invitation to become familiar. If you smile at their trashy jokes or rude behavior, they interpret your smile as participation in their foolishness. Your smile is for appreciation, not for license.

This advice goes against the merry advice to keep smiling, but it may come in handy.

(2) Words: Use Carefully

You do not have to own the words you use. You can quote other people’s words (as long as you do not take credit for them) when it is important to speak out. Too many people remain silent—not knowing the right words to say—when something needs to be said.

Not enough wisdom is spoken to offset the volume of nonsense spoken in public, by people who talk too much.

In personal relationships, be careful to communicate clearly and purposely. Talk through your feelings and give the other person opportunity to speak, so that you understand each other. Write your words when it is difficult to say them.

In general, use words to build, not to destroy. Specifically, when speaking to the children, use words worth remembering.

Find ways to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.

Find ways to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.

(3) Time and Money: Invest Wisely

Procrastination and ignorance have been my lifelong enemies with regards to time and money. I used to have major regrets about this, but regret is useless. I believe that habits can change, going forward.

It is all about setting goals, devising a plan, and practicing zero tolerance for delay and distraction. Even at age 65, the struggle to break bad habits remain. But why am I still alive, if not to gain victories that eluded me in earlier years?

To those behind me, make the effort to learn time and money management. Write what you learn into your personal program. Use them and not let them use you. Decide where you need them on your list of priorities, but never place them above family.

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(4) Forgiveness: Dispense Lavishly

The freedom that comes from forgiveness is worth sharing.

The freedom that comes from forgiveness is worth sharing.

Learn from your mistakes what they teach you about yourself and about life, but do not keep a list of your wrongdoings. Admit your imperfection and accept God’s forgiveness, which is how you forgive yourself.

Forgiving yourself makes it easier to forgive other people. Just remember that in forgiving others, you are only dispensing from the forgiveness which you receive. You receive it lavishly, so dispense it likewise.

The freedom that comes from forgiveness is worth sharing. It frees your space from negative elements like selfishness, guilt, inferiority and hostility. You empower yourself to age gracefully.

(5) Worship: Participate Passionately

At age 65, I have had time to review and reflect on the beliefs I inherited. Some I have altered and some I have replaced. The end result is that I choose to worship the Creator God of heaven and earth, and to remain a Christian following the example and teachings of Jesus Christ.

Life is too confusing to live without having a a solid, divine connection. Prayer helps and worship sustains. Worship is best offered humbly in recognition of the fact that God is greater than we are; passionately, in response to the fact we need a relationship with Him more than with anyone or anything else.

My counsel to those behind me is to nurture your innate desire for worship. Some worship themselves, other people, possessions or causes. It makes sense to worship the Giver of Life, and to worship passionately in proportion to your gratitude.

(6) Life: Live Joyfully

"Don't get older just to get wiser...If you get older, you will be wiser...But get older because it's fun," said Maya Angelou on her 74th birthday.

Joy lives inside you. It finds things to celebrate. When you’re burnt out and it seems that there is nothing to be joyful about, look around you, find someone who is celebrating and share his or her joy. Or let nature help bring it to the surface; take a nature walk and enjoy the song of the birds, or the sprint of the squirrels. Or, play some music, sing and dance.

Your joy is your responsibility. It helps you maintain your health and your relationships. No better life than a life of joy!

This Summary of Nuggets

1. Smiles: Share Deliberately
2. Words: Use Carefully
3. Time and Money: Invest Wisely
4. Forgiveness: Dispense Lavishly
5. Worship: Participate Passionately
6. Life: Live Joyfully

Everyone is encouraged to compile and share wisdom nuggets gained from everyday experiences, as the opportunity arises. The more we share, the more we connect, and the wiser we will all be.

  • Every day is a good day.
  • Every person counts.
  • Every situation teaches a lesson.
  • Everyone who reads this has something to share.

In appreciation for this great gift of life, the least we can do is enjoy it at whatever age we are.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2014 Dora Weithers


Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on May 14, 2017:

Victor, thanks for your feedback. We all have stories to tell, and HubPages is a good place to tell them in part.

victor from India on May 14, 2017:

These six points are very valuable.

Thanks for sharing these wise lessons in nutshell.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on January 10, 2016:

Swalia, you're welcome. Thank you for reading and commenting.

Shaloo Walia from India on January 08, 2016:

Great advice MsDora. Thanks for sharing!

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 01, 2015:

Poetryman, thanks for your kind comment. You made my day!

poetryman6969 on April 01, 2015:

What a nice photo of you! Some very good advice as well. Voted up.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on January 05, 2015:

Thanks, Loraine. If we're going to be around, we might as well enjoy being here.

Loraine Brummer from Hartington, Nebraska on January 03, 2015:

Beautifully written. A joyful attitude is priceless.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on July 18, 2014:

Blond Logic, thank you for your valuable input. Love your honesty about forgiveness; glad you're free now. I'm working on time too. Your comment is encouraging.

Barbara Badder from USA on July 18, 2014:

I like your advice. I'm getting older myself and need to be reminded of some of these lessons from time to time.

Mary Wickison from USA on July 18, 2014:

These are things I am still working on.

Only in the past few years have I learned how beneficial forgiveness is. It is as though grudges I held on to were a weight on me. Looking at it now, I was foolish and now -I just , let it go.

Time management is still my big problem. I believe many people view those of us who work from home, as lazy or unemployed. I need to be firmer with those who try to monopolize my time.

You have really hit the nail on the head with your list. These are all useful words of wisdom, whether were 65 , 25 or 105!

Sharing and pinning

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on May 19, 2014:

Cris, nice hearing from you. Thank you for your encouragement.

CrisSp from Sky Is The Limit Adventure on May 19, 2014:

Indeed, great words of wisdom. Worth reading and sharing. Lovely photos as well.

Thank you.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on May 16, 2014:

Manatita, glad you finally made it to my page. You can be late as long as you are sincere. Thank you.

manatita44 from london on May 16, 2014:

Gems of wisdom here, my Sweet One.

I am going though some of your Hubs here, but for this one I should not have been late. My apologies.

Your loving Brother in Spirit,


Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on May 01, 2014:

Lady E, I can relate; distracting thoughts sometimes barge in. However, we learn by practice how to replace them and continue to focus. Thank you for sharing, and keep praising!

Elena from London, UK on May 01, 2014:

Your photos are beautiful. The point about "Participate passionately" touched me. I will be honest and say sometimes, I could be clapping hands praising God and at the same time wondering what I will have to prepare for Sunday dinner. We truly must be there 100% in heart worshipping.... well, I should. :-)

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 21, 2014:

You're welcome, Rajan. They're reminders for me too. Thanks for dropping by.

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on April 21, 2014:

MsDora, I love the essence of this hub. These nuggets maybe small but they truly leave a powerful message. Many thanks for sharing your words of wisdom.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 17, 2014:

Dream On, I am honored to be another old lady who has something to offer. I have always liked the elderly, so perhaps we share similar thoughts about them. Hope I am able to share as long as I live. As for you, start sharing whenever you feel like it, no matter what age you are.

DREAM ON on April 17, 2014:

When I was growing up at the age 15 years old I rather spend time to an elderly lady who would tell me all about her day and any thoughts that seemed important. It was better than hanging out with friends.Thank you again for sharing your thoughts and your beautiful family.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 17, 2014:

StrictlyDating, Happy Easter to you as well. Thank you for your kind comment.

StrictlyQuotes from Australia on April 17, 2014:

MsDora, I always appreciate your words of wisdom. You are outstanding! The family photos you shared here are beautiful too! Happy Easter:)

Joanna Chandler from On Planet Earth on April 16, 2014:

Good day MsDora No problem :)

Hope your having a swell day

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 16, 2014:

Dream On, you are such an encouragement to me. Thank you!

DREAM ON on April 16, 2014:

MsDora Through your nuggets of wisdom I discovered the richest ore of all kind. That I can carry in my pocket or pull out to display. Each and every time I learn something new. Thank you and have a nice day.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 15, 2014:

Hi LadyFiddler, seems like I know you too. It's because we have some similar thoughts. Thank you so much for weighing in. You encourage me. Be blessed!

Joanna Chandler from On Planet Earth on April 14, 2014:

Hi Msdora lovely read, well written and I can hear you tone in your hub like if I know you and I've heard your voice. Maya Angelou has been through a rugged road. I love her style of writing only one problem I got with her and its her "voice" lol but that has not stopped me from liking her poems or owning one of her books. She's one of my strong black sisters, I do hope God gives her health and strength as she goes down in age.

What you said about a smile is so true especially for men they always take it in the wrong way. It annoys me I am just trying to be polite and cordial at work or on the street doesn't mean the smile was inviting nor that we are buddies. When will they get it!

Thanks for sharing .

Shalom and peace be unto you.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 14, 2014:

Denise, thanks for the birthday wishes and kind sentiments. I love you too, and hope we continue to learn from each other.

Denise W Anderson from Bismarck, North Dakota on April 14, 2014:

It is wonderful to have a small glimpse of who you "really are," MsDora. We love you and appreciate your wisdom and understanding that you choose to share with us. We are grateful for the decisions you have made in your life, and the example you continue to set. Happy 65th!

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 14, 2014:

Janelle, thank you for your encouragement. Have a great week!

Janellegems on April 13, 2014:

Excellent wise words to follow. I appreciate every nugget. Thanks for sharing your heart, life lessons and advice. You are truly a blessing and inspiring woman.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 13, 2014:

Word, just a little flattery? Thank you, I accept it.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 13, 2014:

Maggie, good to see you. I accept my gray hair as blessing; just the fact that I live long enough to have them. Thank you.

Al Wordlaw from Chicago on April 13, 2014:

Duhhh, I like your new pic, I meant to add that you have such a charming and youthful smile. -:)

Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord on April 12, 2014:

Oh, how I love this hub!!! The Bible is so real, Proverbs 16:31 says: "Gray hair is a crown of glory; it is gained in a righteous life."

Maya is one of those that I am looking forward to meet in Heavens.

You look great! Be Blessed.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 12, 2014:

Al, thank you for your kind observation. We are all acquiring wisdom everyday and when you get to be my age, you'll have your personal nuggets to share. Thanks for your continual support!

Al Wordlaw from Chicago on April 12, 2014:

Hello MsDora, you've captured wisdom like no other has. You use it well. I can can appreciate your wisdom as I look ahead enjoying every day. Thank you for always showing up here!

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 10, 2014:

Cecile, thank you for your kind comment. Glad you like my nuggets.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 10, 2014:

Kathleen, you're welcome. Thank you for your comment.

Cecile Portilla from West Orange, New Jersey on April 10, 2014:

Thanks for your words of wisdom Ms. Dora. I will frequently remind myself of your summary of nuggets . Voted up!

Kathleen Odenthal from Bridgewater on April 10, 2014:

thank you msdora for this insightful post!

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 10, 2014:

Brenda, welcome to my HubCircle. Thank you for your kind comment.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 10, 2014:

Ignugent, thank you for the illustration. Right on!

Brenda Thornlow from New York on April 10, 2014:

Beautiful words of wisdom. Thank you so much for sharing. Voted up!

ignugent17 on April 10, 2014:

Wonderful hub MsDora! I agree with you on using the words carefully. That is why hubpages is really a good site in giving comments and getting one. The writers give each other ideas and advice that will help the individual grow and improve as a writer.

Have a good one. :-)

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 10, 2014:

Thank you, Peg. You always share honestly, and I appreciate you.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 10, 2014:

Izettl, thanks for confirming the positive soul that is Maya Angelou. She's exceptional. Her spirit of gratitude impresses me greatly and I would like to exude the same. Thank you for the encouragement.

Peg Cole from North Dallas, Texas on April 10, 2014:

These are wise words to incorporate into our daily lives. Thanks for sharing these nuggets.

L Izett from The Great Northwest on April 10, 2014:

What a great person to share a birthday with. I've seen many interviews with Maya and I can't even be as positive as her. I'd love to be but I really think it comes natural to her. Anyway, I love the wisdom here. Most importantly, and you mentioned it at the end, is time to reflect. Yes, you've reflected but even other people at your age have not. Reflection is great and can be dome at any age...consistently. Some people don't their whole lives so not even age gives them wisdom. And I love #5! Great hub! Up!!

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 10, 2014:

Nell, thank you, thank you. I appreciate you.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 10, 2014:

Tmarajo, so pleased to meet you. Thank your for that affirmation.

Nell Rose from England on April 10, 2014:

Hi MsDora, what a wonderful inspirational hub! I loved every word, and all of them very wise, and the photos are beautiful!

Tamarajo on April 10, 2014:

"we need a relationship with Him more than with anyone or anything else" - Amen!!

Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. Voted up and useful

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 10, 2014:

Ahhhhhh Crafty! I've been to the doctor more than once because of dry eyes. Tears have their purpose. I love you, too.

CraftytotheCore on April 10, 2014:

MsDora, you brought tears to my eyes. This is so beautiful. You have such tremendous value for life and you are such a good role model to all.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 10, 2014:

Frank, thank you for your kind comment. So good to hear from you.

sujaya venkatesh on April 10, 2014:

wisdom dawns mostly at dusk do

Frank Atanacio from Shelton on April 10, 2014:

Msdora this is another wonderful hub..amazing

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 09, 2014:

Faith, thank you for being so kind. I can imagine the joy of having 3 grandkids in your home. Just little while longer, and mine will be redy to dance. Blessings to you, too.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 09, 2014:

Karen, welcome to HubPages, and thanks for reading and commenting.

Faith Reaper from southern USA on April 09, 2014:

Such a beautiful write filled with much wisdom, MsDora. Thank you for sharing here! Each one you have listed is so important in this life. I can see the joy in your face, eyes and smile when holding your grandson, so precious is he. Just this past weekend, we had up all three of my grands and the first night up we turned on the music and all sang and danced and just had the best time filled with laughter. All of such keeps one young too, such as your young 65 years!

Here is to 65 years of living and loving and many, many more of the same to come.

Up and more, tweeting, pinning and sharing

God bless you. In His Love,

Faith Reaper

Karen Lorenzo from Denver, Colorado on April 09, 2014:

Beautiful article which brings out the positive side of an individual.

Voted up:)

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 09, 2014:

Well said, Ann. Thank you for your observation. I appreciate you.

Ann1Az2 from Orange, Texas on April 09, 2014:

A lack of all these nuggets causes pre-mature aging! Well done, especially the one about forgiveness.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 09, 2014:

Sheila, thank you for following. We all need reminders. That's how I know what to include so I can remind myself.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 09, 2014:

Mona, be encouraged. Falling short is something all humans do, but forgiving yourself is on the list. Thanks for commenting.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 09, 2014:

Stages, thank you for stopping by. I appreciate your kind comment.

sheilamyers on April 09, 2014:

Another wonderful hub full of great advice! I try to live out what you wrote, but sometimes find myself slipping back to my old ways. It's always nice to read your hubs for the gentle reminders of the best way to live.

Mona Sabalones Gonzalez from Philippines on April 09, 2014:

Here's another list I have to keep in my pocket and refer to now and then. I fall short on so many of your points. Thank you, Ms. Dora. Voted up and shared.

Kathy Henderson from Pa on April 09, 2014:

Ms. Dora, such a beautiful hub, full of life lessons from a wise woman. We are blessed. Thank you for sharing your insight and sound advice.

God Bless as you share the love and light, I am sure you touch many during your day.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 09, 2014:

Doc Purpose Embraced, please do not bother about the duplicate comments. They are both welcome to stay.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 09, 2014:

Froggy, continual blessings on you for the rest of today and always. Thank you for stopping by.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 09, 2014: