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Living With Attention Deficit Disorder

Brittany is a special needs mother, law enforcement wife, and self-published poet.

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ADD: What Is It?

Attention deficit disorder (ADD) is a condition that makes people lack the ability to focus and concentrate. People with this disorder typically have a difficult time in school or work because they are unable to focus on the material that is being demonstrated to them. They become bored easily and usually feel the need to switch to a new topic/task.

People with ADD may have a hard time following conversations because their thoughts may be jumping all over the place. This can make it challenging to maintain relationships of any kind and to educate themselves. It isn't because of a lack of intelligence. We are just bored with everyday routine. We need something in our lives that excites us. To be truly successful, a person with ADD needs to pursue a career they are passionate about.

Symptom #1: Difficulty Concentrating

The most common symptom is trouble focusing. This is easiest to observe in a school environment since children with ADD have a hard time focusing on their school work. Teachers may find the students daydreaming while looking out the window, doodling, or thinking about other topics other than doing school work. This behavior is similar in adults.

In my experience, I've noticed I have a difficult time paying attention when someone is talking to me. My attention span is worse when more than one conversation is going on in the same room. If there are too many people talking in the same room, I don't know which conversation to focus on. Therefore, I only get bits and pieces of each dialogue and miss the main topic of each conversation.

It is also difficult to listen to people who have monotone voices. Our minds respond to sounds, so music is a great way to connect with people who have ADD. Also, because we have a hard time following a conversation, it makes it difficult to communicate and form strong connections with others.

Symptom #2: Motivational Issues

Because of the inability to focus on a single task, people with ADD may be objective to trying new things. People with attention deficit disorder are aware they cannot focus well, and this knowledge dampens their motivation to try anything different or new.

Symptom #3: Misplacing Items

Another habit people with ADD often do is misplace items. Just last week I misplaced my keys, and they were right on the table where I left them! My mind was focused on another task, so I was unable to recall where I had set my keys down (even though they were in an obvious location). I've learned to put my keys, and other items, in the same spot so I know exactly where that item is when I am looking for it. I'm not a fan of switching the layout of my house because that increases my chances of misplacing items.

Symptom #4: Disorganization

I dream about making my home beautifully organized, but my mind doesn't know where to start. I have stacks of papers on top of each other instead of in a filing cabinet (which I own!) and my kitchen counters are a mess. The act itself requires a lot of focus, and most often I don't seem to have the time or energy to put into the task of organizing the way I'd like.

Symptom #5: Memory Problems

I will freely admit my memory is terrible. I joke with my husband I am going to develop amnesia in old age. I'd say the memory issues are due to trying to focus on something in particular (which we struggle with) and it also takes energy to recall memories.

Test and exams were a nightmare in school because of this, even if I knew the subject fairly well. I don't particularly do well in educating myself because I have to re-read a paragraph over and over. I do better watching videos that demonstrate pictures because I am a visual learner.

Symptom #6: Avoiding Anything Challenging

Kids and adults can seem timid because they avoid difficult tasks. Any task that is difficult for an average person will be more difficult for someone with ADD. It can be overwhelming to comprehend all the instruction that is involved in completing a challenge that is too trying.

Symptom #7: Careless Mistakes

People with ADD can seem klutzy. This is because we have a tough time focusing on our immediate surroundings. They are usually simple mistakes like dropping a pen, misplacing your keys, or bumping into something they didn't notice (which I do ALL the time).

Symptom #8: Creativity

This I consider a positive trait. I love being creative, and I think more people should try their hand at creating something at least once. I daydream a lot, and I find myself thinking about a story idea, a piece of music I put together in my mind, or a logo design that may do well for an online store.

As a kid, I grew up participating in many chorus productions and musicals in school. People with ADD make good artists and entrepreneurs.

Poem About ADD

I am not as I seem

I live in my own world with ADD

Constantly misplacing items at home

Overthinking situations when I'm alone

Sensitive and emotional

I am a hot mess

I shut down when I am stressed

Depressed and anxious, but not knowing why

Searching for experiences to give me a natural high

When I'm able to focus, I tune the world out

To get my attention, you may have to shout

Constant headaches fill my day

My mind is racing even when I can't find words to say

I always feel that I'm behind

I never follow through with what is assigned

I'm easily bored and can't stand routine

I have many goals but rarely follow through with my dreams

Always nervous and socially strange

The world sometimes thinks I am slightly deranged


By: Brittany Benko

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and does not substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed health professional. Drugs, supplements, and natural remedies may have dangerous side effects. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.

© 2021 Brittany Benko

Comments

Misbah Sheikh from The World of Poets on June 10, 2021:

Thanks, Brittany for your kind response. You can Always edit your article and you can still put a video capsule instead of the text one. Nothing to worry. I would recommend you to add the references ( can be Bibliographic/websites as resources) at the end of the article and a disclaimer and copyright too.

Many Blessings to you dear

Brittany Benko (author) from South Carolina on June 10, 2021:

Thank you for the kind words. I'm glad I was able to help people who may be dealing with ADD or know someone who is dealing with this disorder. As for the video capsule, I am still learning how Hubpages works.

Misbah Sheikh from The World of Poets on June 10, 2021:

Thanks for sharing this valuable information, Brittany. I also have written an article about few months ago on the same topic but for children named “Children With Attention Disorder.”

I enjoyed reading your article. One thing I would like to ask if you don’t mind, why you didn’t use the video capsule for video link to YouTube. It would be easier for the readers to watch it. No? Thanks for the informative and interesting article.

Blessings to you

DW Davis from Eastern NC on June 10, 2021:

I appreciate your Hub. As an adult with ADD, I have lived with the whole list of symptoms you describe. One of the benefits I have discovered as a teacher is having a deeper understanding and more patience with my students who also suffer from this.

Thank you for helping make the situation of adult ADD more widely known.

DW

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