My Personal Experience With Heart Disease
Heart disease is the number one killer of women in the United States.
Did you know that before you read that sentence? Before having my heart attack, I did not know that.
Now that I have had a heart attack, it's a fact I now know and pay attention to. Coronary heart disease, where the buildup of plague causes a blockage of blood to the heart, is the most common form of heart disease in men and women. That is what happened to me—and even though it happened in 2005, it still seems like an unbelievable event in my life.
I am blessed to be still alive, and I hope other women can learn from my story.
What Happened Directly Before My Heart Attack
In January of 2005, I filed for divorce from my husband of 16 years.
We had three children together, and I had always believed that couples should not get divorced. For the last five years of my marriage, though, I had felt like staying married was a worse situation for the children and me. And it was obvious that their father wasn't happy either.
After I filed, things were very tense in our house as both of us stayed in the home with the children who were ages 10, 10, and 13 at the time. I went to the required parenting class and paid close attention to what they told parents we should do and not do, to keep the situation optimum for the children. One of these tips was not to fight in front of the children. I refused to fight with him in front of the kids. I avoided him when he was in a bad mood, and tried to keep the children away when he was angry. I just went through the motions of what I needed to do to get through each day. I found a new job that provided me with better money than working as a self-employed person had. I had serious talks with the kids about our future and how everything would work out and listened to their concerns. I even brought them to family counseling.
Finally, on August 4, 2005, my girls came crying to me about a situation with their dad, and I calmly asked him not to involve the children in our problems. Once he started to raise his voice, it was as though a switch inside me flipped on, and I verbally poured forth all my anger and disappointment that had been bottled up for 16 years.
If I had been successful in those years of getting him to go couples counseling with me, I don't think I would have reached this point. But he had refused, and so everything came out that one night.
There was anger, there were loud voices, but worst of all, there were our three kids in the house listening to every word we yelled back and forth at each other. That, my friends, is what I believe, put me over the edge. I had tried so hard to keep my feelings of anger, and frustration bottled up away from the kids, that when it all came spewing out that one night in front of them, it caused me so much stress, and raised my blood pressure so high, that it was too much for my heart. I do consciously remember thinking, during this argument, that I needed to stop because the kids heard all of this, but I was unable to stop the fountain of anger, disappointment, and hurt that came spewing out of my mouth during that 15-minute period.
I Felt Pain in Both Arms
When it was over, and my ex walked out the door, I suddenly became aware of the pain in both of my arms. It was an ache so bad that I felt like I had been punching a punching bag for three hours. My arms felt exhausted, and the pain ran from my shoulders to my hands.
I didn't think it was a heart attack because I had always heard that arm pain in a heart attack is in the left arm. I hadn't ever heard that it was in both arms or the right arm.
I went upstairs to my bedroom and lay down on the bed. One of my daughters came with me and was asking me questions about the argument. I told her that I couldn't talk about it right then because I was very stressed out and I needed to try to calm down. She didn't understand and kept asking questions, which made me more stressed because it strengthened my concerns about what the kids had heard.
I became aware of my chest feeling really tight, and I again thought I was feeling that way due to stress, so I must be having an anxiety attack. After all, I was young and a woman, and we don't have heart attacks with symptoms like that.
Since I couldn't relax and stop the pain, I decided to call the young woman down the street who had just recently become a nurse. She came up to my house, and I explained my symptoms. She didn't have her blood pressure cuff at her house but brought her stethoscope. She said my heart was beating a mile a minute and that under the circumstances she thought I should go to the Emergency Room to get it checked out.
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I told her I thought it was just an anxiety attack, and therefore what's the worst that could happen? She said, 'You could drop dead in front of your kids."
That's all she needed to say. She wanted to drive me to the hospital, but I was concerned about the kids' welfare, so asked her to stay with them so they wouldn't be worried, and I would drive myself. She reminded me that people who are having heart attacks should not be driving cars. Again I told her I was sure it was just an anxiety attack.
My Experience at the Hospital
On the way to the hospital, the pain started to subside, but when I thought about the possibility that I was having a heart attack, the pain would become stronger. By the time I got to the Emergency Room, I was in tears from the fear.
I told the check-in clerk at the front desk that I was either having an anxiety attack or a heart attack. Big mistake, I found out later. If someone thinks they may be having a heart attack, that is the information that needs to be given at the Emergency Room. Otherwise, as in my case, they may look at you, decide you're too young, and a woman, and make you wait to be seen.
A lot of damage can be done to a heart while waiting to be seen in the ER waiting area. The clerk had someone else with him and asked me to sit down and wait till he was done. When he did take my blood pressure, it was 194 over 92. This was about one hour after the argument had ended. I usually had low blood pressure, so this was high. He told me to have a seat, and someone would call me.
During the one hour that I waited to be seen, I called my parents and asked them to head to my house and stay with the kids so they wouldn't worry, and they could relieve the neighbor who was there. That made me feel better already because I don't like to inconvenience people and I wanted the neighbor to be able to go home.
After an hour, I was brought into a room in the ER, seen by a nurse and someone took blood out of my arm so that they could run some tests. I also had an EKG procedure performed which is when they use a machine to check the rhythms of the heart.
I Was Shocked to Hear the News
Another wait ensued, but when they came back to see me, I was quite shocked when they told me I had indeed, had a heart attack. Tears poured out of my eyes when I realized how serious the situation was. I had a hard time even believing them, but when they told me I was being admitted to the hospital and starting on medication to prevent further damage to my heart, the reality sunk in.
The doctor came in and spoke to me and asked me what had led up to the heart attack. I explained about the divorce and the argument in front of the kids. He told me in the morning they would do an angiogram to find out if there was a blockage.
They started me on medication and told me I would immediately be started on a low-fat, low-salt diet, which I would need to follow for the rest of my life. It was 3:00 a.m. before I was settled in a room. Although I was tired, it was hard to sleep because so many thoughts were going through my head. I finally drifted off to sleep.
The next morning, a bright and chipper cardiologist walked into my room and introduced himself. He told me even he was surprised that I had had a heart attack. I was about 20 pounds overweight, but that in itself should not cause any issues this serious. My bad cholesterol (LDL) level was in the average/high range, but again not high enough to worry them about a heart concern. My good cholesterol (HDL) level was low, and that could have caused concern. He asked me about the events leading up to the attack. Again I had to go through the whole story of what had happened the night before.
The First Angiogram
He explained the angiogram process, and I was prepped to go downstairs. The angiogram process involves inserting a small tube into your body, taking x-ray pictures while contrast (x-ray dye) is being injected into a vessel, and then removing the catheter.
I was numbed in the area where the small tube was inserted, and given a muscle relaxer before they inserted the small tube. The staff performing the procedure talked to me while the procedure was being done to make sure I was comfortable. The worst part of the angiogram was all the bruising over the next few days at and around the site where they had inserted the tube.
They couldn't really figure out what was going on with my heart and they couldn't find a blockage. I stayed in the hospital for three days, and on the morning of the fourth day, I again started having arm pain, and this time I started feeling dizzy. Since they couldn't discover what the issue was at my local hospital, I was sent an hour away to Yale-New Haven Hospital in New Haven, Connecticut.
The Second Angiogram
They performed another angiogram with more sophisticated instruments and this time they did find what they were looking for. Apparently, I had a very small blockage in an artery very far away from my heart. The artery was so small that it cannot be reopened with a stent.
The good news was that it looked like there was no permanent damage to my heart. I was surprised and relieved about that. I was told to go home, follow a low-salt, low-fat, low-cholesterol diet, exercise, lose weight, avoid stress, and see my cardiologist regularly. I was also put on medication for various symptoms: Zocor for high cholesterol, Imdur for angina, a baby aspirin once per day, and Coreg for high blood pressure.
I went from being on absolutely no medication to four different types daily. I was disappointed in myself for being so young and to have gotten in a situation where I needed that much medication, so that in itself was rather depressing.
I went home to recuperate. I felt like a different person after the heart attack. At first, I was depressed. I was still in shock that this had happened to me at such a young age. But heart disease does run in my family. I had a great uncle who dropped dead of a heart attack at the age of 36. My maternal grandfather died of a heart attack, as did my paternal grandmother. But it seemed like one of those experiences that would never happen to me.
I feel blessed and as though I had a second chance at life. That part was good. I was determined not to let stress get to me as it did before the heart attack.
One of the ways that manifests itself is that I don't get as upset with my kids when they do things to annoy me or make choices that I think are wrong. I try to stay calm for my health rather than raise my voice as I might have in the past.
I used to love to go shopping for bargains. My mom and I would go out at 9:00 a.m. and not return home until 9:00 p.m., and we would have a carload full of bargains. For the first year after the heart attack, I had trouble physically shopping for more than two or three hours at a time and only did that at Christmas. I no longer had the stamina or the interest to shop longer. And although I have regained my energy level, I am no longer interested in mega shopping trips. This is a benefit to my new husband!
I have always appreciated the blessings that God has given me, but more so now. I don't take life for granted anymore. I do struggle with my weight still, unfortunately.
I Got Married Again
I got married again two years ago and had lost weight and exercised almost every day. When I went to the cardiologist after the wedding in August 2010, he congratulated me on having graduated from his services because everything checked out so well regarding weight, cholesterol, blood pressure, etc. I was taken off all the medication except the Zocor for the cholesterol, and I do still take a baby aspirin every day just to be on the safe side.
I have gained some of that weight back that I lost for the wedding. I do try to lose the weight, but it comes and goes in spurts. I am currently trying to lose the weight I have put on over the past few years by just changing my diet and exercising every day. I am losing it slower than I have done in the past, hoping it becomes part of my everyday routine.
I am more tired now than I used to be. If I don't sleep at least nine hours each night (and who has time to do that?), I need a nap to get through the day. I feel lazy sometimes doing it, but if it works, it's important for me to do to protect my health.
It's Been Seven Years
I had my heart attack seven years ago now. I have not had any more complications regarding my heart. When I look at the statistics of people who have heart attacks and died, I am once again reminded of how blessed I am. I don't ever want to have another heart attack, so I need to be ever mindful of the results of overeating and lack of exercise so that it won't happen again. Because if I do have another heart attack, I may not be so fortunate next time. Fifty percent of people that have heart attacks do not survive. I hope that other women who read this story can benefit from my experience, and most importantly get themselves to a doctor or hospital as soon as possible if they feel any symptoms that may be a result of a heart attack. It's much better to be safe than sorry.
Don't Second-Guess Your Symptoms!
This is what I'd say to anyone who thinks they may be having a heart attack: Don't second guess it when you get to the hospital. Tell everyone you see that you think you are having a heart attack, even if you are not sure.
This is especially true if you are a woman, or younger than 50. Every second is important when it comes to your heart, and the quicker you get help, the less damage there will be. If it's not a heart attack, that's great and although you may be embarrassed, protecting your heart is more important than a little embarrassment!
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and does not substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed health professional. Drugs, supplements, and natural remedies may have dangerous side effects. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.
© 2012 Karen Hellier
Linda Rogers from Minnesota on December 18, 2017:
Wow, that is one heck of a story. I want to thank you for this with everyone. Knowledge is power and you may have saved a life with your story. So wonderful to hear how things have turned around for you. New love, great kids and healthier & more educated on matters of the heart.
Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on October 16, 2013:
Thank you. I am grateful for my life every day!
Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on December 29, 2012:
Yes, and it was a young guy. I think if it had been a female, I would have been treated a bit differently...you know, kindred spirit and all. I never should have mentioned an anxiety attack as a possibility because that probably put the idea in hiss mind too so he wasn't that concerned. When it comes to heart issues I think one should expect the worst, but hope for the best!Thanks for your comment.
Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on December 29, 2012:
Wow, you walked 75 minutes this a.m.? I am so impressed. I am going to take Billybuc up on his 365 miles in 365 days challenge and am gearing myself up for that...walked 20 minutes today...whoop de do! I used to walk a lot more but when I work daily outside of the home it's so hard to keep up with commitments and unfortunately the commitments I make to myself are the first to go. But I know I deserve better treatment than that, and I really need it due to the heart attack so I am turning over a new leaf in 2013. Glad to have inspired you. Thanks for reading and leaving such a thoughtful comment...as you always do.
Hawaiian Odysseus from Southeast Washington state on December 29, 2012:
You are such a heroine! I am so thankful to have made your acquaintance because you have inspired me so much. My earnest prayer is that the only heart attacks you ever experience from here on out are the beautiful skip-a-beat palpitations you feel when your handsome husband walks into the room. God bless you. I am so motivated now to meet my goals for 2013 after reading this. (BTW, this is the first thing I did after returning home from my 1 hour and 15 minutes of walking this morning. Reading this hub was a great way to wind down while simultaneously inspiring me to meet the rest of my pre-New Year's goal-setting preparations of the day.) Nice work, Karen!
Kim Kennedy from uk on October 28, 2012:
I can't believe the clerk left you sitting around when you said you may be having a heart attack. Thank goodness you recovered, it must have been scary for you and your family. We tend to think of heart attacks as mega-pain, short of breath, but I know a couple of people who had milder symptoms. Anyway, the main thing is, you're doing well. Long may that continue!
Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on August 14, 2012:
So sorry to hear about your heart attack but glad you survived. The first year after my heart attack was the hardest because I was so nervous about a second one. It's been 7 years now and I am still fine. As far as a future love, there are many men out there who will love you no matter what. I never knew there were so many younger women that have had heart attacks till I wrote this hub and started getting comments. And heart attacks for women are still thought to be very uncommon. We should change that way of thinking.
ShellyPea on August 14, 2012:
Together we will change the tide of information and awareness regarding young women and heart attacks. Suffered mine at 39, six months ago, in circumstances very like yours.
So delighted that you found love again. I am nervous about what any future partner will think about my MI. You have given me hope.....
Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on August 13, 2012:
38, oh my. That's younger than I was. And I was shocked to have one that young. Well, I was shocked to have one at all, but being that young made it worse. I hope you are doing better as well? Thanks for the comment, the vote and the pin.
moonlake from America on August 13, 2012:
So sorry to hear this. Glad you are doing better.
I had a heart attack at 38 I know what it's like to go through one. At first I thought I would never feel better. Voted up and pinned your hub.
Daniel S Moore from Denver, Colorado on July 16, 2012:
Yes! My father is doing great, and your doing it right, take it slow, and make it a life style :)
Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on July 13, 2012:
Well thank you so much prospectboy. I greatly appreciate that you shared this hub, and your kind words.
Bradrick H. from Texas on July 13, 2012:
Amazing and heartfelt hub Karen. It's great that you are sharing your personal story with others about the importance of seeking help if they think they're having a heart attack. I also like when you said that you don't get stressed out these days because of health reasons. That's something that I think about a lot before I get angry. Glad to hear that you have progressed since this unfortunate incident. I think this is a good read for everyone both men and women, so I'm sharing it on Facebook, and Twitter. Best wishes to you Karen.
Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on July 11, 2012:
Thanks for the encouraging words. I never thought that an argument could cause a heart attack, but I bet it happens more than people are aware of...judging by both your father's and my experience, and both at young ages. I hope your dad has recovered well? I am in the process of losing weight for a cruise that is coming up in October. It seems the older I get, the harder it is for the weight to come off easily, and the best I can manage is about 1 pound per week. I have heard it's healthy to only take off one to two pounds per week anyway, so I guess that is good for me, but it's just frustrating. I may take you up on writing about the symptoms for women's heart attacks. Thanks for the idea.
Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on July 11, 2012:
Thanks for reading and sharing comments about a heart healthy diet. And thanks for the comment on my happy marriage. I feel blessed every day now, and that in itself is a stress reducer!
Daniel S Moore from Denver, Colorado on July 11, 2012:
I'm so glad you are recovered and loving life again! As a personal trainer I understand the risks of heart attacks! In fact, my 43 year-old father just had a heart attack last year during an argument with my step-mother. After reading your Hub post I feel it may be good for you to research and post about symptoms of heart attacks for WOMEN as they are not the same as men, and most education out there is for men. This is an amazing post! I'm so glad your a doing well, your looking great, and your children are beautiful! If you need any help with your weight please feel free to email me for advice and follow my Hub! I'm new to the community, so I'm looking to build my readership! Again, congrats on your second go at life, keep kicking butt :)
radhapriestess on July 10, 2012:
Great story. Thanks for sharing. I would suggest a few things: avoid transfat it is a big cause of heart attacks, turkey is better most fish because it does not have mecury in it, and chanting is good at relieving stress. Glad to see you are happy in this marriage.
Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on July 10, 2012:
Thank you SusieQ42. Very uplifting observations about my article and about my life!
SusieQ42 on July 10, 2012:
This is a powerful story about how to avoid having a heart attack and not giving up hope when in a marriage that just didn't work out! You survived and are healed and are now so happy. Congrats, Karen! Voted up and awesome, interesting and useful. Thanks for sharing. God bless, Susieq42
Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on July 10, 2012:
Aw, thank you for your kind comments mzpendent. I appreciate it greatly.
mzindependent from Texas on July 09, 2012:
Thank you sharing your story. Voted Useful and Beautiful!
Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on July 09, 2012:
Yes, God is good, and I am grateful every day for the gifts I have been given.
Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on July 09, 2012:
Thanks alexadry! You are right. I think it's misleading that people think men are the ones who have to worry about heart attacks. I shudder to think what might have happened if I hadn't gone to the ER because it didn't really seem like what I expected a heart attack to feel like. Thanks for reading.
Joshua Zerbini from Pennsylvania on July 09, 2012:
Wow, what a crazy story! Thank goodness you are still alive! Awesome, uplifting story of how God works through his children! Thanks Karen!
Adrienne Farricelli on July 09, 2012:
What an experience! I am happy you are alive and well and happily married! Glad you could share your story and help others who may be in a similar situation! Yes, you have a lot to live for and are blessed to have a wonderful family!